First Family Meals for Fostering and Adopting Families
A reader asks: “As we near time to bring home 2 kids on visitor’s visa whom we are adopting who are selective eaters, I’m trying to make sure I have a plan in place with regards to safe foods being offered at each meal. They favor noodles, pizza (which we all can eat), hotdogs, and blini and cheese on bread or separate and yogurt & cucumbers and pickles. Do I just make sure we have noodles or pizza or blini or cheese or hot dogs at each meal in addition to the foods that...
Read MoreWorry Cycle IV: Why Kids Push Back on Pressure with Eating
This is the last installment for Adoption Month on my introduction to the Worry Cycle. Just in time for Thanksgiving. Maybe at this year’s Holiday table you can experiment and see how it feels if you let the worry and pressure go. It might just surprise you! Part I reviews why some children present with feeding challenges, and why it is more common for adopted and foster children to experience difficulties. Part II describes how most parents are simply not well supported or prepared to...
Read MoreCounterproductive Feeding practices: Part III of the Worry Cycle
Quick recap of the Worry Cycle so far… When families find themselves struggling with feeding it usually begins because the child presents with a feeding challenge (anything from an oral-motor delay to painful reflux, to being larger or smaller than average in our current culture). The worried parent, with little support and often poorly advised by the very experts they turn to for help, then turns to counterproductive feeding practices with the goal of either getting the child to eat...
Read MoreWhy parents get into counterproductive feeding patterns: Worry Cycle Part II
Last week’s post introduced the “Worry Cycle” and why some foster and adopted children present with feeding challenges. The child who is challenging to feed is often the starting point that sets up the difficult feeding relationship. This week we move on to the parent dealing with the feeding challenge. Obviously, this is where I want to break the cycle, by offering information and support about best-feeding practices, even in the face of significant challenges… Poor...
Read MoreThe Worry Cycle of Feeding: Part I for Adoption Month
In honor of Adoption Month (November) I will run four weekly posts on feeding issues related to adoption and fostering. If you have biological children, children who came to you by birth and adoption, or no children at all, I hope you’ll read the series. I’ll introduce the “Worry Cycle” of Feeding, which is applicable to all families struggling with feeding and weight worries… Part 1 starts with the entry point to what I have called the “Worry...
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