I'm ba-ack, and more musing on "too much" ice-cream...

Well, just got back from a lovely Disney Cruise with the in-laws and my family. Lots of fun, and the food thing was interesting. Building on my last post about ice-cream, I will share our ice-cream sagas...There was a self-serve ice-cream machine, that was open 24/7. This was our "snack" on more than one occasion. I had a few cones too. In general, I try to have a "child-sized" portion of dessert most days, usually with dinner. Vacations are a time when I relax a little more.During the week, the entree portions of food were  reasonable, filling, and had great options for kids. I never felt like there wasn't enough food, and was pleased that chicken strips and mac and cheese were not the only choice. Refreshing that kids were at least given options of a variety of foods...Anyhoo, the second day, we had lunch, and the ice-cream buffet served M 3 scoops of ice-cream with marshmallows and sauce. Wow, what a great treat! She enjoyed it, I enjoyed watching her. I don't even remember if she ate it all. Well then came dinner. M wanted ice-cream again. OK, but I asked the waitress for one scoop. The waitress started arguing with me, and then M joined in, "Come on, it's vacation," they chimed in!  I said, "One scoop is great, thanks! We've already had wonderful ice-cream today, and we like to eat lots of different things!" So, M now is asking for three scoops, and is getting lots of good attention so she starts mouthing off. She is given two warnings, then her ice-cream comes and she mimics me in a nasty way. That was warning #3, so we left the table, with our desserts just sitting there and went up to the room.My husband saw her and was supportive, as she clearly crossed the line. By the time we got up to the room, we had talked, she had calmed down. I made sure she knew it was her behavior that was a problem, and then we sat together and enjoyed the pillow chocolates for our dessert while we watched Disney classics. She had eaten a great meal otherwise and said she was not hungry.The waitress however, I think, assumed I did not want her eating the ice-cream because when M was having breakfast the next morning, she walked up with a bowl with three scoops of ice-cream and handed it to M– who enjoyed it for breakfast. (She also had a small cone with me for snack, and a mickey bar with dinner that night....)It was all so odd. We ate and enjoyed lots of ice-cream, I mean when do you get to have an ice-cream machine on hand? We stuck with snack and mealtimes, there was also fruit and other choices with snacks, she enjoyed salads, mashed potatoes, chicken, pork etc as well.What do you think about someone handing your child a huge sundae at breakfast? Weird? What if I was fat, or my daughter was fat? Would they have felt OK telling us to eat less?  I found the staff interfered with the kids' eating like crazy. Pushing them to eat their veggies, "If you eat all your veggies, you'll see a magic trick!" Checking in, praising the kids who ate veggies, intervening with what we were offering our children as choices, pushing desserts, LITERALLY...Just wanted to share, in a rambly, "I have to get back to my chapter I'm working on, but wanted to say Hi and check in" kind of way.How have you experienced wait-staff/family interfering with feeding? How did you handle it?