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First Family Meals for Fostering and Adopting Families

Posted by on Jul 16, 2013 in Blog Posts | 3 comments

A reader asks: “As we near time to bring home 2 kids on visitor’s visa whom we are adopting who are selective eaters, I’m trying to make sure I have a plan in place with regards to safe foods being offered at each meal. They favor noodles, pizza (which we all can eat), hotdogs, and blini and cheese on bread or separate and yogurt & cucumbers and pickles. Do I just make sure we have noodles or pizza or blini or cheese or hot dogs at each meal in addition to the foods that...

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“Eat it, no don’t you dare eat it!” Confusion and pressure undermine eating skills and trust.

Posted by on May 22, 2013 in Blog Posts | 1 comment

I was recently at a children’s museum in another state. We were enjoying lunch, and I smiled and waved at a gorgeous preschooler at the table next to us. The mom and dad were attentive, loving, affectionate, and working really hard to get the two kids to eat (well, the mom was anyway). I have special experience and interest in helping adoptive and fostering parents, and the family was transracial, with white parents and black children.  The adoption is relevant in terms of attachment and...

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Touching story of progress with selective eating

Posted by on May 6, 2013 in Blog Posts | 3 comments

This is a great post from Mealtime Hostage Blog. I am quoting generously, with permission. I love the journal-style story of progress for this mother of a selective eater. I know so many parents who think, “That sounds great, but can’t work for us.” It’s why I filled my book with tons of quotes from parents who have been there, and why I asked the Mealtime Hostage Mom if I could share this mother’s triumphs and joys. Mealtime Hostage is a great resource if you are...

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Crazy Mealtime Theater: saying ‘no’ to the oatmeal tantrum

Posted by on Dec 18, 2012 in Blog Posts | 11 comments

I am fortunate to have a very competent eater. She self-regulates and enjoys a variety of foods, but not all by any means, and that’s okay.  At just 7, we’ve been at this Trust Model for more than five years. And yet, we still on occasion have scenes like this… Asked M this morning what she wanted for breakfast. She said, “I don’t know,” so I got my toast ready, and a few boxes of cereal on the table, milk, bananas, clementines. Our toast was hot, so hubby...

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Worry Cycle IV: Why Kids Push Back on Pressure with Eating

Posted by on Nov 20, 2012 in Blog Posts | 2 comments

This is the last installment for Adoption Month on my introduction to the Worry Cycle. Just in time for Thanksgiving. Maybe at this year’s Holiday table you can experiment and see how it feels if you let the worry and pressure go. It might just surprise you! Part I reviews why some children present with feeding challenges, and why it is more common for adopted and foster children to experience difficulties. Part II describes how most parents are simply not well supported or prepared to...

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