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Praise for LMFM

“A must-read for families—especially adoptive ones—but really everyone, because food issues are so rampant today. Rowell tackles the tough issues, and they would have helped my parents when I was adopted and are already helping me with my foster children now . . . This information is desperately needed to help families deal with common challenges that come up involving food. This book shows parents how to build trust and relationships, while avoiding conflict and power struggles.”  — Ashley Rhodes–Courter, bestselling author of Three Little Words


“There are few relationships more important or more complex than the one between child and parent over food. When children are eating well and growing and developing normally, parents feel validated. However, when feeding becomes an unpleasant chore, parents question their abilities and self-worth. Much of our contact with young children occurs in conjunction with food and without confidence and pleasure in this interaction, the process of mutual attachment is stilted. Love Me, Feed Me is designed to help families understand and rectify feeding problems commonly encountered in children who suffered early deprivation and is one of the best sources of coherent information on this extremely important topic.”   — Dana E. Johnson, MD, Ph.D, Professor of Pediatrics, International Adoption Medicine Program, University of Minnesota


“Understanding and tuned-in feeding is a powerful way for you to show your foster or adoptive child that you love her and understand how she feels, and s/he can trust you to take care of her. Katja Rowell’s book will show you how.” — Ellyn Satter, MS, RD, LCSW, BCD, author of Child of Mine, Your Child’s Weight and Secrets of Feeding a Healthy Family


“In her book, Love Me, Feed Me, Dr. Rowell offers parents a deeply complex, loving, and effective plan of action for resolving feeding problems. She skillfully introduces the reader to the Trust Model, then builds the reader’s skill in applying the model in even the most extraordinary circumstances. Throughout, she pays careful attention to the issues of attachment that are entwined with feeding. I recommend this book to community-based programs and providers serving parents of adoptive children. They will find a new treatment paradigm that I hope transforms their program policies.” — Carol Danaher, MPH, RD, Public Health Nutritionist, San Jose, California


“This may be the most important book you read about attachment and feeding with your foster or adopted child. Wherever you are in your parenting journey, this essential guide will equip you to handle common feeding challenges and build trust and attachment with your child. Difficulties around feeding and eating are often more intense with the foster or adopted child, and the conventional wisdom about how to address these problems may just do more harm than good. If meal times are a constant power struggle and you are weary from the battle, this revolutionary approach will allow you to reclaim joy and freedom at the family table. You will learn to trust your instincts, and more importantly, your child, so that you can support  his innate ability to eat well. You may even find some healing from your own long-standing struggles with food. Whether you have been struggling with feeding for what seems like an eternity or you simply want to anticipate and prevent common problems with eating and weight concerns in your child, this is a must read.” — Katherine Zavodni, MPH, RD, LDN



“I wish I had read Love Me, Feed Me before we had our son with us. It would have saved us so much worry and heartache. Our family has been transformed by the Trust Model and Dr. Rowell’s practical advice. It felt like she was describing our situation to the letter, when we felt like we were the only ones. This book has helped more than I would have imagined, both with our biological son’s picky eating and our adopted son’s intense interest in food. As a bonus, the practical, science-based information will help me take better care of my patients.” — Ruth C., mother and Family Nurse Practitioner



“As a dietitian specializing in eating disorders and working with children with all kinds of feeding problems, I’ve also earned my stripes personally as a picky eater and a stepmother of picky eaters. Dr. Rowell’s advice is right on target for all of the above. It’s time to replace the “obesity crisis” paradigm with a focus on developing competent eaters.”  — Jessica Setnick, MS, RD, CSSD, CEDRD, International Federation of Eating Disorder Dietitians, author of The American Dietetic Association Pocket Guide to Eating Disorders, National Director of Training and Education for Ranch 2300 Collegiate Eating Disorders Treatment Program



“As someone who works with families fighting life-threatening eating disorders, I see this as essential reading for parents who are feeling challenged by feeding issues. This well-researched guide gives parents a foundation for raising children who can learn to trust their bodies to guide their eating, even if there are significant feeding challenges.” — Becky Henry, CPPC, author of Just Tell Her to Stop: Family Stories of Eating Disorders



“This book is a blueprint for adoptive and fostering parents on how to achieve a healthy feeding relationship, written with clarity and compassion.” — Ines M. Anchondo, DrPH, MPH, RD CSP, Certified Specialist in Pediatrics Nutrition



“So little information is offered to parents pre-adoption regarding how to feed a child in a way that encourages trust and attachment. A stress-free, pleasant family meal is essential in the attachment process with adoptive and foster children. Dr. Rowell’s spot-on advice in Love Me, Feed Me has truly been a key to the attachment process with my adoptive son. The Trust Model has also helped me deal with feeding challenges with confidence when they come up. I love that this book goes into so many of the day-to-day feeding challenges as well as the bigger picture topics. I recommend this book highly.” — Margo J., Mother to a son adopted at 8 months of age