I was watching Parenthood on Hulu last night and a commercial almost made me throw my computer against the wall. Here was a mommyblogger saying, “If you don’t eat it, Santa won’t come!” A little more poking around on Ragu’s site revealed more slick videos of mommybloggers chuckling and sharing how cute it is that they had to feed their kids in the tub for months, or that same mom’s 3 year old “makes her” spoon feed him like a baby…
Alas, the page has thousands and thousands of likes, it is probably very relatable to most moms who are struggling with feeding. What bugs me is that these mommies, held up as a resource are struggling, but instead of a thoughtful examination of what is going wrong, and giving helpful advice, it’s more of a jovial atmosphere, of, “Oh, these goofy kids!” While with real desperation she says. “I’d pay money to get them to eat!” I’m all for us moms having a shared community, sharing our struggles and looking for help and answers, but what this site seems mostly to do is normalize truly abnormal struggles with eating. Just because it’s really common for moms to go to great lengths to “get” a kid to eat chicken (one mom says, “I have to chop it into tinty, tiny pieces so it doesn’t even resemble food…”) doesn’t mean it’s OK, laughable or admirable.
Social media is powerful. Surveys say that folks like you and me are more likely to trust someone like us, than some “expert”. This is such a missed opportunity, and so harmful. I am tired of our culture normalizing abnormal when it comes to food.
It made me chuckle then to see that someone created a People Against Ragus Moms the Word page on FB. I liked it. I’m curious to see if it goes anywhere.
What do you think?