Some of the comments after my last post got me thinking. How do you set down the feeding “rules” in your home when you have guests who insist on pressuring their children and perhaps even your own? It ocurred to me that maybe having this list posted would be an easy way to deal with this issue… Could you see posting this on the fridge for your own family, but also for guests in your home? You can simply laugh and point to the “rules” when your cousin Betty tries to make your son eat all his veggies before he can “earn” dessert??
I was thinking how incredible it might be for a child who experiences significant anguish and pressure around food to see what eating without pressure can feel like… What a gift it could be to say to a child, “You don’t have to eat anything you don’t want,” or, “Of course you can have more chicken, there is plenty…” Did you as a child ever experience that sense of, “Wow, things can be different?” (For better or for worse…)
Here is Ellyn Satter’s, From the Cook, which you can download as a PDF. (chose the second or third PDF, one is a country style, the other with hearts…)
From the Cook
♥ Food will be available at mealtime and snack-time.
Other than that, the kitchen is closed.
♥ You do not have to eat anything you do not want to.
♥ You do have to say “yes, please,” and “no, thank you.”
♥ You will not say “yuck.”
♥ There will always be bread, and you may eat as
much of it as you want.
♥ When I make something new, I will also make
something you generally enjoy.
♥ Sometimes I will make one person’s favorite.
Another time, someone else will get lucky.
♥ Any disputes will be settled by the cook.
Copyright © 2011 by Ellyn Satter. For more information see www.EllynSatter.com or read
Ellyn Satter’s Secrets of Feeding a Healthy Family. Rights to reproduce: As long as you leave it
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